So I know it's been quite some time since I've posted anything on this blog and I'm sure I didn't let too many people down, as my blog has not been on the top of the " World's Most Popular Blogs" list in...well, ever. But here I be. I am back after having been away for a good while.
Now, I have been turning some things over in my mind for a the past several months and I wanted to come back with one that is very significant to me. It has to do with parenting. I am a single mother of two beautiful children and I am also a decently informed Christian...sometimes :-). One who has learned the terrible impact "fatherlessness" can have on children, and has even had on me. So naturally when I became a single parent I was concerned (or terrified) about how I, alone, could fill the gap for my son and my daughter in the regular absence of their father. I really began to feel they were doomed to the battles and the struggles their father and I had faced as a result of our "absent father homes."
I love my father. This article is in no way meant to be a
determination of his character. Nor is it a sign of my
estimation of his love for us. He was very devoted and
committed to making every possible stretch at being
with and near us. He was always there for us and I am
fully aware that he is a good man. This article is a chance
to reach single mothers. To make them aware of the needs
of their children, the affects of "fatherlessness" on them and
offer a means by which to combat those affects.
I LOVE YOU DADDY!!
Now when I say absent father I do not mean that the man is a total dirt bag and attempts to spend 0 time with his children. I mean the home in which the children resides does not include as one of it occupants, residents, dwellers, etc., their own biological father. (Step parents can be awesome, however they can not easily take the place of a blood parent. The child will still be affected by the loss of their own biological father.)
So in thinking about all this, and in being concerned about how this could harm my children, I wondered what I could do to make sure my kids would grow up well balanced, strong and loved. Let's just say God has helped me. He has given me a little bit of understanding and I wanted to share that here because these are things I had never heard before. Many times, in books and even in preaching we are spoken to of the importance of the father in the home; almost like an appeal to the men who are still IN the home, "PLEASE DON'T LEAVE TERRIBLE THINGS WILL HAPPEN IF YOU DO!!!," then they throw in a quick "there's still hope for the single mother's" after having explained how terrible life will be for the children when the father leaves. We are left informed and unanswered. What do we do? Try to be both mother and father? Love, Love, Love, and hope that will be enough? Rule the home like a tyrant? What?
This is my introduction to a series of conversations I have had with God about what the single mother can do to meet the needs of her children in a fatherless home. I will be posting as I go along with God's wisdom.
I DON"T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS!!!
but I know someone who does...
And I hope you'll follow along with me as I listen for God's instruction.
The Order of Subjects:
Single Parent Homes: "What About the Children?"
Little Boys: Can a Woman Raise A Man?
Little Girls: Where to Find Her Worth
So I hope you'll stick around and see what I'm hearing as I go into prayer with God. This is not research. This is not a exhaustive study. Just Robyn asking God for the answers. God bless!"Some say life is good...I say heavens better."